Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary
How often do you put yourself last?
As moms, we’re constantly taking care of everyone else, but when we do something for ourselves, guilt creeps in. The truth? Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s how you show up as your best self for your family, your work, and your well-being.
In today’s post, I’m breaking down why self-care isn’t a luxury and how to prioritize yourself—even if you feel like there’s no time.
What Does Self-Care Really Mean?
When you hear the phrase “self-care,” you might picture spa days, massages, or solo coffee dates. And while those are great, true self-care is much deeper than that.
🚫 Self-care isn’t:
❌ Something that only happens when you “earn” it
❌ A luxury that requires time & money
❌ A once-in-a-while indulgence
✅ Self-care is:
✔️ The small, intentional actions you take every day to support your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
✔️ Giving yourself permission to take up space and have needs.
✔️ Recognizing that your health matters just as much as everyone else’s.
The 2NN Method: Daily Self-Care in Minutes
A simple way to make self-care a daily habit is my 2NN method—which stands for Two Non-Negotiables.
Here’s how it works:
💡 Every day, choose TWO things that are just for you—things that bring joy, relaxation, or energy.
👉 Some days, this might be a massage or a pedicure.
👉 Other days, it could be reading a book, stepping outside for 10 minutes, or savoring your morning tea.
The point? Self-care doesn’t have to be big to be powerful. It just has to be consistent.
Why Prioritizing Yourself Helps Your Family
You might feel like putting yourself first is taking away from your family—but it’s actually doing the opposite.
💡 When you take care of yourself, you:
✔️ Have more patience & energy for your kids
✔️ Feel more present & less overwhelmed
✔️ Show your children what healthy boundaries look like
In fact, your kids notice when your self-care is lacking—even if they don’t have the words to express it.
If you’re constantly snapping at your kids, zoning out, or feeling exhausted, that’s a sign your own cup needs refilling.
How to Get Started: Small Shifts to Prioritize Yourself
Here’s how to start implementing self-care daily:
✨ Schedule your 2NN (Two Non-Negotiables) every day
✨ Make a self-care list—small, everyday things that bring you joy
✨ Set boundaries—stop saying “yes” to everything that drains you
✨ Join a support system—you don’t have to do it alone!
And if you’re struggling with where to start, I’ve got the perfect place for you…
The Wellness with Vanda Club: Your Support System for Prioritizing YOU
If self-care feels impossible or you need guidance & support to prioritize yourself, The Wellness with Vanda Club is here for you!
Inside the club, I’ll help you:
✔️ Learn simple strategies for balancing hormones & energy
✔️ Build realistic self-care habits that fit into your busy life
✔️ Get monthly coaching, resources, and a supportive community
The doors are open until Thursday, March 13th—so if you’re ready to finally take care of YOU, now’s the time to join!
💬 What’s one small act of self-care you’ll do today? Drop it in the comments or DM me on Instagram @wellness.with.vanda—I’d love to hear!
🎧 Listen to the full podcast episode here: On Apple. On Spotify. On my site.