Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish - It's Necessary
Think for a moment…how often do you put yourself last?
As moms, we’re constantly taking care of everyone else, but when we do something for ourselves, guilt creeps in. The truth? Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s how you’re able to show up as your best self for your family, your work, and your own well-being.
And guess what, your self-care practices absolutely impact your hormones, because of the impact it has on your stress and stress resiliency.
In this blog post, I’m breaking down why self-care isn’t a luxury and how to prioritize yourself—even if you feel like there’s no time.
What does "Self-Care" Really mean?
When you hear the phrase “self-care,” you might picture spa days, massages, or solo coffee dates. And while those are great, true self-care is much deeper than that.
Self-care isn’t:
❌ Something that only happens when you “earn” it
❌ A luxury that requires time & money
❌ A once-in-a-while indulgence
Self-care is:
✔️ The small, intentional actions you take every day to support your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
✔️ Giving yourself permission to take up space and have needs.
✔️ Recognizing that your health matters just as much as everyone else’s.
Self-Care in Minutes: The 2NN Method
Self-care should feel like a relief, not another thing you had to add to your daily to-do list.
An easy way to make self-care a daily habit is my 2NN method—which stands for Two Non-Negotiables.
Here’s how it works:
Every day, choose TWO things that are just for you—things that bring joy, relaxation, energy, or just make you feel good.
👉 Some days, this might be a massage or a pedicure.
👉 Other days, it could be reading a book, stepping outside for 10 minutes, or savoring your morning tea.
The point? Self-care doesn’t have to be big to be powerful. It just has to be consistent.
Prioritizing Your Self-Care Helps the Whole Family
You might feel like putting yourself first is taking away from your kids or family—but it’s actually doing the opposite.
When you take care of yourself, you:
✔️ Have more patience & energy for your kids
✔️ Feel more present & less overwhelmed
✔️ Show your children what caring for themselves looks like
✔️ Have more capacity to connect with your partner, friends, and extended family
If you find yourself constantly snapping at your kids or husband, zoning out, or feeling constantly tapped-out, that’s a sign your own cup needs refilling.
And remember, even your kids notice when your self-care is lacking—even if they don’t have the words to express it.
Getting Started: Small Shifts to Prioritize Yourself
Here’s a step-by-step layout of how you to start implementing self-care daily with my 2NN method:
Schedule your 2NN (Two Non-Negotiables) every day. You can choose what these are going to be each night before you go to bed, or early in the morning as you’re planning your day
Make a self-care or 2NN list—small, everyday things that bring you joy. You may find it hard to add things to this list at first. My suggestion is to keep a running list on your phone and add to it anytime you think of something.
Set boundaries—stop saying “yes” to everything. Your time is precious and you need to treat it that way, when you’re saying yes to things that you don’t really want to do, out of obligation, it leaves you feeling drained and resentful.
You don’t have to do this alone, if you’re struggling with where to start, joining my email community is a great way to get connected with me and other like-minded mamas that are also working on self-care, hormones, & overall wellbeing. Click here to join the community now!